It hard to compensate for forgetfulness when it's met with defensiveness.
It may annoy my spouse but I find myself overcompensating for his forgetfulness. I see his phone I charge it. I see the sole car key available I put it by the door. I see the sole house keys I put them by the door.
(I'm not even going to go into the audacity of him going through my coat pockets and becoming irate and accusatory about keys he does
not recall we had.)
I could chalk it up to my concern for his increasing absentmindedness but the reality is I'm punishing myself for not compensating more. I know that sounds ridiculous but if I do more than I won't be disappointed when presents are forgotten or letters aren't mailed.
If I keep reminding myself to only ask for one thing and not two then it's ok. Turn off oven and take out muffins will mean muffins come out but oven stays on all day. Next time just ask to take muffins out.
I need to be more patient and remember I will need to remind him multiple times within a short time frame. It's just the way things are. I have to realize this is he best course.
Be quiet. Be patient. Repeat. Unitasks only. Don't get angry at yourself for the lack of preparedness in front of him. He will think you are angry with him.