A newlywed asked me if one can learn to be patient. He said, "I fear I won't have any patience with my kids."
With your kids, you gain extra patience. I don't know where it comes from but it does.
Now, there will be times where you think you are just going to lose your schmidt and that's normal but most folks find a way to displace that in a bowl of ice cream or what not.
The big driving force for me is what I see everyday.
Everyday, I see some stupidity or idiocy that makes me go, my kids cannot contribute to this ridiculousness. My kids need to be strong, confident and have a sense of common sense and logic. There is too much 'what the Whuck?' out there.
This morning, I must have made more moans and groans than acceptable in the workplace that doesn't reside in the desert somewhere in Nevada. With every email I opened, more inefficiencies were displayed.
I'm not an efficiency expert. I am an obsessive compulsive, anal retentive, logical person and apparently this sometimes leans itself to efficiency and streamlined processes (well, there are a few idiosyncractic items but that's for another post.)
I hate paper shuffling.
I hate meetings.
I hate unproductive to dos.
I desire my kids to be as productive as possible and a means in which I can try to steer them towards this is not only to be a role model but to also display patience. You need to patient to learn something. You need to be patient to be meticulous.
I don't want them to be like me in the sense that it can be a little ridiculous. (I went to work the week I gave birth because I had a compulsion to dot every i.)
So patience can be learned and in some shape or form it will appear. Everyone has a different driving force but as a parent, you will have that patience.
As for the newlywed, I told him to relax and just enjoy married life first.