Monday, October 24, 2011

Protecting my son from gender stereotypes already

7 Days Old and already attending his first concert.
Today I'm not as engorged, thank goodness.
We've also seen an uptick in peeing and pooping always a positive sign when developing your breastfeeding relationship with your offspring.  (By the way each child is different so give yourself at least 2 good weeks to work on your breastfeeding relationship before you completely panic or go off the deep end.)
This go around, my confidence and knowledge (read and experienced) seems to be paying off.  Yes, breastfeeding is hard work but I know it's worth it and it's helping me bond even more with DS.

On the relativity front, I love my MIL but she's bothering my family for pictures after we told her that we are still trying to acclimate and bond and will be cocooning ourselves to give us the leisure to do so with our new son.
What drives me nuts is not only that she calls my family not to gab and rejoice but also because I know what she wants.  She doesn't want photos to know the usual stats (weight, length, etc).  She wants to know what color hair and eyes our son has even though we've told her time and time again this changes during infancy and sometimes beyond.  She's so transparent sometimes it really ticks me off.  I know she means no harm by it but she really is obsessive about certain things.  I try to be nice but sometimes you can only keep quiet for so long.
The other thing that drives me nuts is that she has received the first photos already and the response was "The photos are small." or "I can't make out details." (Details is hair color and eye color.)  I also know she asked several folks who have seen our son for photos and information about hair and eye color.  One person gave her the usual stats and her response was, "I don't care about that.  What color is his hair and eyes?"  

Maybe I wouldn't be so ticked if she was interested in the photos to gawk and fawn rather than to confirm the child is what she deems "golden".
I know she doesn't mean it that way but in a way she does but not in a malicious way.  It's just the way she is.  I'm trying to be understanding about this but at the same time, just as I have had to put my foot down on some of the old school gender stereotypes she's try to press on our daughter, I know this is only the beginning of a long line of gender stereotypes I'm going to have to protect my son against in the future.