Friday, September 30, 2011

Stop the World I Want to Get Off

Nesting Man is a different man than a Nesting Woman.
I know this.
I get this.
Yet I don't get this.

When I need him to focus on family he does but not in the way I'd like him to.
I'm nearing the end of my second pregnancy.  This means that my brain is on overdrive thinking about impending labor, delivery, newborn, new routines, sleep deprivation, juggling toddler, husband, newborn and self.
This is the time I sincerely need support and feeling like I've got a teammate in this.

DH's nesting is about the global picture which I totally admire but it frustrates me.  He's currently brainstorming and figuring out logistics for his graduate studies.
I support him 100% and am the proudest wife about this.  I want him to do what makes him happy and what he feels can contribute to society.
I just need to be a little selfish now and think about the near future and the insular.

Putting up a brand new sink in our bathroom is his nesting.
I would have preferred him pulling out the baby gear so we can inspect and determine if we needed new baby gear to replace expired or unsafe gear, especially during the September Annual Baby Gear sales.

Heck, I'm starting to feel the pressure, literally and figuratively.
I'm trying to tie up loose ends before I leave for maternity.
I'm trying to prep the house before delivery.
I'm trying to fill out the necessary grown up paperwork for me, newborn and family before the baby comes.
I'm trying to prep our toddler for the new welcome but routine disrupting family member.
I haven't done anything on my for me list and I know I won't but I think I should at least pack my delivery bag.  That could be useful.
Oh and picking out names for #2 would be good.

How do I say this without being so narrow minded?
How do I express this without being unsupportive?
How am I going to do all this without losing the few marbles I have left?