I'm having a hard time lately with family not understanding how a 21 month old's naps and general routine are the priority. Granted if we had another child, we won't have this luxury but all I know now is if the routine is good, her naps are good and she's a happy grumpy free child.
Routines go awry and she needs extra help settling.
I know the older generation came from a school of kids follow parent's schedules but DH and I lean towards attachment parenting and listening to our child's cues.
I need to remind myself that it's fine and we are doing what we feel is right and our daughter shows it.