I grew up with a father who even though exhausted from long hours of work during the week, would take my brother and myself out to see and learn new things on the weekend.
My husband didn't have these opportunities.
When we first met, he told me how he'd make darn sure he would be the father he always wanted. It was one of the most sincere discussions we had and it helped solidify my love for this man.
Now that we have a child, I'm finding it hard to find a happy medium between my dad and my husband as dad. I know realistically each man will be their own father.
I don't want him to be like my dad.
I know it's an issue of mine. I like going out to see holiday trees. I like taking our daughter to experience new things. My husband does to but he doesn't plan the day around it. I do. I think for him it's more of a 'if it fits into my schedule'. For me, it's 'I make things fit around the main event.
In the long run, I think she'll benefit from both. For now, I just need to rectify it in my mind. It's probably more bothersome to me than anyone else in my family.